True Emotion Dad
Laverne Friesen is a survivor turned thriver, transforming decades of abuse and trauma into a message of healing and hope. Raised in a cult and enduring emotional, physical, religious, spiritual, financial, and sexual abuse—as well as toxic relationships that left him questioning his reality—Laverne shares his raw, authentic journey of healing and spiritual growth.
Tune in for powerful conversations with like-minded guests, offering truth, vulnerability, and the reminder that a brighter, more authentic future is possible.
True Emotion Dad
"You’re Not Broken — You’re Healing": Julia’s Story of Trauma and Transformation
In this episode of True Emotion Dad, host Laverne Friesen speaks with Julia, a somatic trauma and nervous system coach, about her journey of healing from decades of trauma, including experiences with narcissistic parenting and sexual assault.
Julia shares her insights on the importance of boundaries, the impact of shame, and the necessity of open conversations about sexual education with children. The conversation delves into the complexities of trauma, healing, and the role of parenting in shaping healthy relationships and boundaries. In this conversation,
Julia and Laverne explore the complexities of healing from trauma, the importance of setting boundaries, and the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships. They discuss the limitations of traditional talk therapy and emphasize the effectiveness of somatic practices in healing trauma. The conversation also delves into the survival patterns that emerge from childhood and how they manifest in adult behavior, particularly among high achievers. Julia shares insights on recognizing signs of burnout and anxiety, advocating for a more holistic approach to mental health that includes body awareness and movement.
Julia can be found at www.healwithjulia.com or on
Instagram @healwithjulia
Takeaways
- Julia's journey into healing was born from her own trauma.
- Narcissistic parenting can lead to significant emotional and psychological challenges.
- Recognizing and addressing trauma is crucial for personal growth.
- Boundaries are essential for healthy relationships and self-care.
- The impact of sexual assault can manifest in various ways, including hypersexuality.
- Open communication about sex and consent is vital for children.
- Shame surrounding sexual assault can hinder healing and recovery.
- Understanding the dynamics of narcissistic relationships is important for healing.
- Teaching children about boundaries can prevent future trauma.
- Healing is a continuous journey that requires self-compassion and understanding. We were taught not to have boundaries.
- People are not broken; they are healing.
- Setting boundaries is essential for self-worth.
- Unhealed trauma affects relationships significantly.
- Somatic practices are crucial for trauma healing.
- Talk therapy alone may not yield results.
- High achievers often struggle with hidden anxiety.
- Recognizing survival patterns can improve communication.
- Anxiety and depression are signs of nervous system dysregulation.
- Healing requires facing uncomfortable truths.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to True Emotion Dad Podcast
01:02 Meet Julia: A Journey of Healing and Transformation
03:31Understanding Trauma: Julia's Story
08:01The Impact of Narcissistic Parenting
17:20 Navigating Relationships with Narcissistic Parents
22:59 The Importance of Boundaries in Healing
23:46 Sexual Assault: Personal Experiences and Aftermath
30:00 The Role of Parenting in Sexual Education
38:20 Shame and Hypersexuality After Assaults
44:57 Understanding Boundaries and Healing
47:42 The Impact of Childhood Trauma on Relationships
51:03 The Role of Somatic Practices in Healing
56:29 Transitioning from Talk Therapy to Somatic Healing
01:01:30 Identifying Survival Patterns in Adults
01:12:30 High Achievers and Their Hidden Struggles
01:16:59 Recognizing Signs of Burnout and Anxiety